Valentines Saps and Romance

So its valentines day I’m gonna play nice since at heart i really am a romantic  but lets be fair #ValentinesTransfirDeadlineDay was trending on twitter yesterday. If were all honest we know there was alot of people making those last minute movements to get someone to be with for today just so they wouldn’t be by themselves. Is that what valentines has come to? Women wanting someone to take them out for the sake of it and men just looking for the women who is just going to give it up.

If were realistic certain guys are taking girls out today spending money on them and at the end of the night its gonna be like suarez and evra  not even a handshake then the next day they will be back in the friend zone.  Remember what chris rock said “women keep their platonic friends around forever, why? because you never know”. Valentines is one of those never know situations,  if shes single she don’t know if she gonna have someone to take her out on valentines while all her friends are with their significant others. Lucky for her she’s got a guy trying to push that transfer request through before the deadline the day before valentines thinking if he can sweet talk her enough and then spend some cash on her hes guaranteed a smash. Silly rabbit tricks are for kids. These will be the same guys up in the barber shop  talking that ” i ain’t spending money on no chick” shit every other day. Apparently valentines is a special day that make these guys  go against the things they were saying the previous weekend. Power of the pussy aye.

This isn’t to take away from the people who actually want to spend time with the ones that they love on valentines day the real believers in romance, who just want to see thier other half smile being happy rather then just get it in not that they dont want to get it in . What I’m saying  is what happened to the romance and the magic of valentines day? The fact that valentines  was meant to be about love. When did it start to be as driven by sex as it by commercial promotion?

 

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
Robert A. Heinlein

 

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Hearts, Loss and PUA

so im reading a new blog ( actually ive picked up 2 new blogs but im only focusing on this one right now) its Beta to PUA . You may recall Two Shotz post “Journey To PUA “. Where as Two Shotz only did one post Beta started in 2010 and he has been going for 2 years now documenting the challenges, progress and stats of what he has achieved in this time. Looking back and reading through his journey you can see how the PUA market can help people who really need it.

That aside I’m focusing on his most recent post that was titled “Breaking Hearts“. It speaks of how he broke a girls heart the previous day not in a bad way as some people believe PUA is for men who just wanna go out get laid and never see the woman again. Beta felt that the relationship wasn’t working from his point of view. What i think is most important about his post is it then speaks of the sense of loss he feels when ever a relationship of any kind he has comes to an end and the focus on the little things that he will miss about them.

We never really speak of the loss we feel when we come to the end of a relationship but posts like that make me look back and think of all the people that have come in and out of my life and the little things about them and what they brought to my life. Should i be happy for the time i had with them or sad for the fact i let them leave my life . I’ve always said that you should have no regrets in life and learn from everything  but i think the only thing you learn from loss is that no matter what you do eventually its always going to happen

Wingmen

They are a vital part of any single mans night out. They Wingman. Now i’ve been going out a lot lately  since i started my new job and i have to tell you the standard of wingmen out here is real poor. I’ve seen some appalling performances from wing men in the last month alone.  I fully appreciate the  how willing my current wingman is but we do it for each other we know if there’s a friend that needs distracting  the other one will do it no questions there’s not even a need to ask.

As an example of poor wingmanship  me and my wingman were out on saturday night   having a few drinks in a bar before we went to the club. We got a few drinks hit the dance floor then proceeded to look for some ladies to talk to as we did this we observed some wingmanship that was so bad we actually fought about first hijacking the ladies from the two guys then secondly just going over and being a proper wingman. This guys wingman was not on the case at all his friend was on the right of him while the girls friend was on the far side to him, looking bored. We all know its not a good sign if the friend is bored it means she likely to pull her friend away or tell her she wants to move because no one wants to be the third wheel just hanging on the edge. It was a shocking display from the friend! I mean if two guys go out on the town its assumed that they would both be able to play the wingman role for the other. I couldnt belive it.

Heres a list of a few traits i belive every good wingman should have

  • He understands his mission

A good wingman will give you first choice on a group of girls when you go over to them. He will then start to keep the other one entertained regardless of his interest in her. A good wingman is able to do this with minimal effort.

  • He keeps you presentable

Your wingman should be looking out for you all night. Making sure you dont drink too much and start acting the fool, telling you if your breath is kicking or if you have something on your face . He’s making sure the attention to attract  to yourself is the right kind.

  • He Understands you

You and your wingman have been around each other loads of times so verbal communication isnt needed anymore a simple look or the way you start acting is enough to pass a message on. Even the use of certain words when talking to women could be enough to pass a message on.

  • He prevents cockblocking by running interference 

Its safe to say that in the woman talking to is good looking and will be attracting attention from other guys in the area. This will mean other guys may try to cut into your conversation with her, this is commonly known as cockblocking. You wingman would minimise this by running interference on any other guy trying to get involved while you are and making sure you have the time you need to get the job done.

  • He read the situation

A good wingman is able to read the situation he will know when he needs to jump into the conversation  to move it along and when he needs to back off and let you work your stuff. He is also able to recognize when you are barking up the wrong tree and wont be afraid to let you know that so you dont waste your time with the wrong women.

  • He will sacrifice himself

Your wing man will not be afraid of being shot down by a group of girls. He will initiate on a group of women even if the chances of him succeeding are nill he will put himself on the line for your success. softening up the overall defence of the group so that you can get to the one you want.

  • He Bigs you up

Your wingman will play himself down while elevating your status to the group of women. All the times that you were covered in glory are ready in the forefront of his mind to be retold  to the intended audience. Timing is crucial but he will always have that down to a T.

  • He takes the ugly friend

Sounds mean if your a woman but its how it works unfortunately. If your from the U.K and over the age of 20 you should know the song Butterz Friend .Women do tend to have friends that dont look as good as they do. Its a wingmans sworn duty to take the butters friend, if it is necessary he may even have to take the ugly friend home for the progress of the friend. Its just another way the wingman may sacrifice  himself for you.

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  • He goes undercover

a good wingman is also a great spy. He will go in a gather information for you on the girl that you want, see if she has a boyfriend or if she has bisexual tendencies. He will find out what her turns on/offs are.

  • He pumps you up

A good wingman is a good motivator he will pump you up making sure your confidence is at its peak for the night. He will advise you when to go into action and when to hold back for abit.

I think those are the basic quailties that every wingman should have. Following them will allow you to never let your partner down in he time of need.

 

Perfect Moments

I was watch “take me home tonight” the other night and  the main charter was asked  why he never asked his highschool crush out when they were back in highschool. He replied that he never had his ‘in’ his perfect moment to ask, its a fair answer but its also a big lie people who say that are just afraid to admit out load they were afraid of being rejected by their crush.

Perfect moments in life are a rare occurrence in life. When they do come around they are magical but you shouldn’t be waiting! wasting your life. You can make these moments yourself  Just seize your opportunity, life’s to short to be waiting for perfect moments. Do things that make a moment perfect instead.

Apparently men are scared of women

I read an article last week that stated that  we should fear things that we don’t understand and in that case since men don’t understand women we must fear them. Sounds like nonsense right  though the article itself was really well constructed with a good factual basis.

I’ve got to fall on the side that yes there are some men that are afraid of women mostly because  they can break you heart and having experienced it myself I can tell you nothing hurts more. The article goes on to say that fear effects how we do everything around women  even how we eat, talk and dress.

Are men scared of women in a sense yes. I mean they say “hell has no fury like that of a scorned woman” we all know that a situation we want to avoid also there is no man that is not afraid of rejection when first approaching a woman but its how you deal with the rejection that is the most important part. Men who cant deal with it are the ones who are usually afraid of women since they couldn’t deal with the feeling of rejection and there are a lot of people trying to cash in on men that are like that. I think its sad that some guys want to cash in on their fellow man but everyone has got to make a living somehow.

Like I said in my post about advice ‘ you should ask someone who knows’ even if a guy is married he don’t know everything about women, your best bet is to ask your female friends generally if you have a lot of female  friends the fear of women lessens since your always around them and interacting with them.

Advice

Over the last few days i have herd some of my friends quoting advice from people who aren’t really qualified to be giving advice on the subject. My opinion is that  no advice is better then advice from people who dont know better. No offence to the people giving the advice  but its just how I feel i see it this way you wouldn’t ask anyone but a pilot how to fly a plane, the same should apply when your asking question about situations to do with life love and sex.

Also im not saying those people don’t know nothing but it would be better to ask people with more experience in the subject.

Keep it simple

One thing I’m always telling my female friends is keep it simple. I mean why is it so hard for them to ask the hard question they want to play games and drop hints ” i’m just gonna see what happens”,  yh that’s really going to help if you both want different things from your dynamic. A woman being direct is a breath of fresh air I’m telling you! I mean most of the problems that they are having would be solved with a simple direct question.

If you want  to know something just ask I mean the worst that can happen is that you don’t get  an answer. No guy likes to play games  or beat around the bush, hints don’t work around here. You cant guide us to talk about a subject were not thinking about instead of wasting time trying just cut to the chase