There was one line in the new fast and the furious movie that got me thinking :
You know, when I was young, my brother always said, “Every man has to have a code.” Mine: Precision. Use what you have, switch them out when you need to until you get the job done. It’s efficient. But you? You’re loyal to a fault. Your code is about family. It makes you predictable. And in our line of work, predictable means vulnerable. And that means I can reach out and break you whenever I want
How true that is everyman should have a code and set of rules that the live buy and wont compromise on. I started to think on what mine was in a way it is very like Doms in FF6 mine is about family I consider everyone of my friends my family their happiness is paramount to me and I will do anything I can to ensure they stay happy. Its not something I will compromise on and in the past I have even sacrificed the things I want so that they can be happy, I wont always make the right decisions morally but I will always try to make the right decision by my friends in my life their happiness makes me happy.
Are you really free? Think about the way you live your life and the things you do. Are you really doing everything you want to? Saying the things you want to?
Alot of people hold themselves back they imprison themselves and use external excuses as the factors that a tribute to their imprisonment. I have some friends ends like that and I have often asked them “what’s stopping you?” or ” why can’t you?” it’s simple enough to say well I tried once and failed or I have to do this no one else can but is that really true? Do you have no one who you can ask to help you that you can share the burdens that you have in life so maybe you can take a rest? Nice people tend to take everything upon themselves if something goes wrong they need to fix it or if someone needs help it must come from them. Who helps the nice people though do they ask for help do they really express what bugs them or how they feel are are they to bogged down with bother people’s issue and problems to be able to deal with their owns. Nice people need to understand sometimes it’s okay to be selfish and look after number one.
If you been following my blog you will remember the Gold diggers in the club post i did. Now first of all let me apologize to all the gold diggers i offended, i aint hating get your hustle on, you do you if you aint gonna do the guy buying you drinks all night. Why am i apologizing because i realised it the scavengers in the club we need to be more aware of! I dont mind the gold diggers they atlest make some guys feel like they might get somewhere and are calm about guys buying them a drink.
These scavengers though jheeez is all i can see i mean gosh this chick looked and was shouting like she just won the lotto. I mean i was out with J on Saturday St Patricks we weren’t in one of our usual spots in fact we wont be going back there. We though we would try somewhere new a change of scene to pre-pair us for spring break it was a terrible night we both left on ZIARO across the board definitely wont be taking this form to Cancun or to Miami.
So we were there chilling by the bar like we do when the music aint really to our tastes when this thing (yes thing because of the way she acted and looked) started jumping around I looked and J and he looked at me thinking why is she going nuts then she calls her friends over saying “come quick he’s gonna but us drinks, see I told you we wouldn’t need money tonight” now let me say i didn’t see the guy that did this so I cant profile him but fucking hell!! Is that how girls are moving these days. Those actions there aren’t the actions of a gold digger, gold diggers can handle themselves the just live of that “why spend mine when I can spend yours mentality” nothing wrong with that guys run off that ” why use my hand when I can use your pussy” mentality so its an even field (lool as if). But shit rolling with no cash at all that’s a new breed of women and I’m calling them scavengers because they go to to the club to pick up scraps from guys that’s some appalling shit in my books
Well this post was inspired by a new things. One of them was a post that i saw on one of the new blogs I’m following The Essex Bound London Addict shes quiet the opinionated person but the blog that inspired me was written by one of the people she met on a social app called blendr.
Zahid the author of the post states that most people are to weak and giving into their desires, that we should be more determined to go against our desires. Well that cant be right in my opinion its got nothing to do with not being able to control your desires. I think its down to the way that people express themselves and their feelings, women don’t see other women acting “loose” and then decide to be the same give them more credit then that. A world where people didn’t give into their desires would not have the advancements that we have today. Some of the greatest minds in history have been great because they gave into their desires to live the way they want or do the things they wanted even when people said they shouldn’t. Can evolution not be describe as one species desire to be better then they are at this moment in time.
I’m going to keep it on the same level as Zahid though when it comes so sex relationships and interactions between members of the opposite sex. Its not desires that would make a man say to a woman “do you want to see my dick?” I would put that down to a man not being gifted enough to string a decent sentence together but that would be giving them credit there are those who are just twisted that way. Most statements like that come from guys on a dating or social website who have no real people skills or from women who have no respect for themselves and don’t know their real worth.
Giving into your sexual desires aint wrong, its not a fashion trend someone didn’t wake up one day and decided its cool nor is their anyone going around saying this is how you should live your life. If no one is getting hurt whats wrong with it. Why would you fight your desire for someone your not going to be with someone you don’t desire in anyway in fact most relationships/marriages end because there’s no desire for one an other. Desire provides that spark in a relationship, that want, that passion love alone aint enough.
To be fair I’m an each to their own as long as you respect yourself how you live your life is up to you. Everyone is allowed their own opinion even if its and opinion on someone else s opinion.
So its valentines day I’m gonna play nice since at heart i really am a romantic but lets be fair #ValentinesTransfirDeadlineDay was trending on twitter yesterday. If were all honest we know there was alot of people making those last minute movements to get someone to be with for today just so they wouldn’t be by themselves. Is that what valentines has come to? Women wanting someone to take them out for the sake of it and men just looking for the women who is just going to give it up.
If were realistic certain guys are taking girls out today spending money on them and at the end of the night its gonna be like suarez and evra not even a handshake then the next day they will be back in the friend zone. Remember what chris rock said “women keep their platonic friends around forever, why? because you never know”. Valentines is one of those never know situations, if shes single she don’t know if she gonna have someone to take her out on valentines while all her friends are with their significant others. Lucky for her she’s got a guy trying to push that transfer request through before the deadline the day before valentines thinking if he can sweet talk her enough and then spend some cash on her hes guaranteed a smash. Silly rabbit tricks are for kids. These will be the same guys up in the barber shop talking that ” i ain’t spending money on no chick” shit every other day. Apparently valentines is a special day that make these guys go against the things they were saying the previous weekend. Power of the pussy aye.
This isn’t to take away from the people who actually want to spend time with the ones that they love on valentines day the real believers in romance, who just want to see thier other half smile being happy rather then just get it in not that they dont want to get it in . What I’m saying is what happened to the romance and the magic of valentines day? The fact that valentines was meant to be about love. When did it start to be as driven by sex as it by commercial promotion?
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
–Robert A. Heinlein
so im reading a new blog ( actually ive picked up 2 new blogs but im only focusing on this one right now) its Beta to PUA . You may recall Two Shotz post “Journey To PUA “. Where as Two Shotz only did one post Beta started in 2010 and he has been going for 2 years now documenting the challenges, progress and stats of what he has achieved in this time. Looking back and reading through his journey you can see how the PUA market can help people who really need it.
That aside I’m focusing on his most recent post that was titled “Breaking Hearts“. It speaks of how he broke a girls heart the previous day not in a bad way as some people believe PUA is for men who just wanna go out get laid and never see the woman again. Beta felt that the relationship wasn’t working from his point of view. What i think is most important about his post is it then speaks of the sense of loss he feels when ever a relationship of any kind he has comes to an end and the focus on the little things that he will miss about them.
We never really speak of the loss we feel when we come to the end of a relationship but posts like that make me look back and think of all the people that have come in and out of my life and the little things about them and what they brought to my life. Should i be happy for the time i had with them or sad for the fact i let them leave my life . I’ve always said that you should have no regrets in life and learn from everything but i think the only thing you learn from loss is that no matter what you do eventually its always going to happen
Even one snow flake can start an avalanche an extreme metaphor inspired by the current weather in london. Since we kicked on to 2012 I’ve decided to address one of my flaws. This flaw was just ignoring problems or just sweeping them under the rug instead of dealing with them at that point in time. Many times have I not done this only for the same issue to rear its head a few months down the line bigger and badder then the last time.
Most successful people in life address everything as it comes.They are dynamic in the way that they do things and deal with problems that inhibit them. Anyone that knows me will know that im a very laid back person, I take everyday as it comes nothing really gets me down and I definitely don’t take things seriously all the time.
Its been my fatal flaw for alot of my life now that i look back and now im looking to correct it. The world isnt as nice a place as my mind would make it out to be , it wont be that easy and at times i wont enjoy it. I will strive to be the best version of me i can be at all times if i do that then i can die a happy man