Its summer time here on our side of the pond for a week it will be anyway.
One thing we can guarantee in this week is that the “Winter Wifeys” and “Holiday Season Hubbys” will be returning to their usual summer antics.
The sun means one thing and that’s skin and lord knows when the skin comes out the thirst is real for some guys moving about like they trying to find water in the Sahara.
Please believe you will find women(thirst goes both ways) moving in exactly the same way
there have been guys living in the gym over the winter and some girls are more then happy to try and trade up from the guy that has been keeping them warm all winter.
Summer is the season of scandal, sex and hopefully sunshine
Well this post was inspired by a new things. One of them was a post that i saw on one of the new blogs I’m following The Essex Bound London Addict shes quiet the opinionated person but the blog that inspired me was written by one of the people she met on a social app called blendr.
Zahid the author of the post states that most people are to weak and giving into their desires, that we should be more determined to go against our desires. Well that cant be right in my opinion its got nothing to do with not being able to control your desires. I think its down to the way that people express themselves and their feelings, women don’t see other women acting “loose” and then decide to be the same give them more credit then that. A world where people didn’t give into their desires would not have the advancements that we have today. Some of the greatest minds in history have been great because they gave into their desires to live the way they want or do the things they wanted even when people said they shouldn’t. Can evolution not be describe as one species desire to be better then they are at this moment in time.
I’m going to keep it on the same level as Zahid though when it comes so sex relationships and interactions between members of the opposite sex. Its not desires that would make a man say to a woman “do you want to see my dick?” I would put that down to a man not being gifted enough to string a decent sentence together but that would be giving them credit there are those who are just twisted that way. Most statements like that come from guys on a dating or social website who have no real people skills or from women who have no respect for themselves and don’t know their real worth.
Giving into your sexual desires aint wrong, its not a fashion trend someone didn’t wake up one day and decided its cool nor is their anyone going around saying this is how you should live your life. If no one is getting hurt whats wrong with it. Why would you fight your desire for someone your not going to be with someone you don’t desire in anyway in fact most relationships/marriages end because there’s no desire for one an other. Desire provides that spark in a relationship, that want, that passion love alone aint enough.
To be fair I’m an each to their own as long as you respect yourself how you live your life is up to you. Everyone is allowed their own opinion even if its and opinion on someone else s opinion.
So its valentines day I’m gonna play nice since at heart i really am a romantic but lets be fair #ValentinesTransfirDeadlineDay was trending on twitter yesterday. If were all honest we know there was alot of people making those last minute movements to get someone to be with for today just so they wouldn’t be by themselves. Is that what valentines has come to? Women wanting someone to take them out for the sake of it and men just looking for the women who is just going to give it up.
If were realistic certain guys are taking girls out today spending money on them and at the end of the night its gonna be like suarez and evra not even a handshake then the next day they will be back in the friend zone. Remember what chris rock said “women keep their platonic friends around forever, why? because you never know”. Valentines is one of those never know situations, if shes single she don’t know if she gonna have someone to take her out on valentines while all her friends are with their significant others. Lucky for her she’s got a guy trying to push that transfer request through before the deadline the day before valentines thinking if he can sweet talk her enough and then spend some cash on her hes guaranteed a smash. Silly rabbit tricks are for kids. These will be the same guys up in the barber shop talking that ” i ain’t spending money on no chick” shit every other day. Apparently valentines is a special day that make these guys go against the things they were saying the previous weekend. Power of the pussy aye.
This isn’t to take away from the people who actually want to spend time with the ones that they love on valentines day the real believers in romance, who just want to see thier other half smile being happy rather then just get it in not that they dont want to get it in . What I’m saying is what happened to the romance and the magic of valentines day? The fact that valentines was meant to be about love. When did it start to be as driven by sex as it by commercial promotion?
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
–Robert A. Heinlein
so im reading a new blog ( actually ive picked up 2 new blogs but im only focusing on this one right now) its Beta to PUA . You may recall Two Shotz post “Journey To PUA “. Where as Two Shotz only did one post Beta started in 2010 and he has been going for 2 years now documenting the challenges, progress and stats of what he has achieved in this time. Looking back and reading through his journey you can see how the PUA market can help people who really need it.
That aside I’m focusing on his most recent post that was titled “Breaking Hearts“. It speaks of how he broke a girls heart the previous day not in a bad way as some people believe PUA is for men who just wanna go out get laid and never see the woman again. Beta felt that the relationship wasn’t working from his point of view. What i think is most important about his post is it then speaks of the sense of loss he feels when ever a relationship of any kind he has comes to an end and the focus on the little things that he will miss about them.
We never really speak of the loss we feel when we come to the end of a relationship but posts like that make me look back and think of all the people that have come in and out of my life and the little things about them and what they brought to my life. Should i be happy for the time i had with them or sad for the fact i let them leave my life . I’ve always said that you should have no regrets in life and learn from everything but i think the only thing you learn from loss is that no matter what you do eventually its always going to happen
I was watch “take me home tonight” the other night and the main charter was asked why he never asked his highschool crush out when they were back in highschool. He replied that he never had his ‘in’ his perfect moment to ask, its a fair answer but its also a big lie people who say that are just afraid to admit out load they were afraid of being rejected by their crush.
Perfect moments in life are a rare occurrence in life. When they do come around they are magical but you shouldn’t be waiting! wasting your life. You can make these moments yourself Just seize your opportunity, life’s to short to be waiting for perfect moments. Do things that make a moment perfect instead.
Over the last few days i have herd some of my friends quoting advice from people who aren’t really qualified to be giving advice on the subject. My opinion is that no advice is better then advice from people who dont know better. No offence to the people giving the advice but its just how I feel i see it this way you wouldn’t ask anyone but a pilot how to fly a plane, the same should apply when your asking question about situations to do with life love and sex.
Also im not saying those people don’t know nothing but it would be better to ask people with more experience in the subject.
One thing I’m always telling my female friends is keep it simple. I mean why is it so hard for them to ask the hard question they want to play games and drop hints ” i’m just gonna see what happens”, yh that’s really going to help if you both want different things from your dynamic. A woman being direct is a breath of fresh air I’m telling you! I mean most of the problems that they are having would be solved with a simple direct question.
If you want to know something just ask I mean the worst that can happen is that you don’t get an answer. No guy likes to play games or beat around the bush, hints don’t work around here. You cant guide us to talk about a subject were not thinking about instead of wasting time trying just cut to the chase